Do husbands stress women?
Men are often regarded as the pillars of the family. Women, on the other hand, are considered the light of the family. Husband and wife are expected to work together to take care the household.
However, in some instances, this common scenario is twisted. In fact, some women carry more burden on their shoulders than their husbands. Parenting is one of their challenging tasks.
The difficult experience of most women emanates not only from child-rearing but also by their mischievous husbands. Some women joke that their husband is their extra child. But it becomes a reality.
Do husbands stress women?
A recent study conducted by TODAY confirmed the joke is real. The research suggests that almost fifty percent of mothers in the US were stressed by their husbands more than their children do.
One of the mothers reported that “A 7-year-old is going to be a 7-year-old. But a 35-year-old acting like a 7-year-old is more stressful because they should know better.”
What is more alarming in the study was that the level of stress among mothers is quite high. In a scale of 1-10, moms have an average of 8.5. This suggests that women are indeed experiencing stress.
As indicated in the survey, women are not primarily stressed by their household chores but by their husbands.
Another mom reported that “I am exhausted emotionally and physically when my husband comes home. He feels like another job.”
Another contributor to stress among moms is the unequal distribution of household chores. More than 75% of women claimed that they do most of the household chores. The lack of help from their husbands made them even more stressed.
This unequal household task distribution was also evident in the previous study of TODAY. In the research, only about two-thirds of husbands actually help their wives in doing parenting and household chores.
Husbands stress women due to their lack of cooperation in performing household tasks. This problem is evident in the findings. Moms reported that:
“Even though I have a committed spouse, I still feel like all the pressure is on me to get everything done. I work just as many hours as my husband does, but yet I do all the scheduling.”
“I feel like I am figuring out a lot about parenting on my own without input of my husband. This stresses me out because when something goes wrong, it is all my fault.”
“He gets all the time he wants and I get none. I can’t take relaxing bath without my husband bringing the baby to me.”
“Often times it seeks like I am the only adult in my house. My husband and daughter compete for my attention”
Therapist Hal Runkel said that marriage is a challenging relationship. It is more difficult than doing household chores and parenting. The success of the relationship depends on the communication between the husband and the wife. Cultivating a healthy communication in the family is of great importance.