How to deal with negative emotions?
Most people when they are feeling bad make impulsive decisions. The problem is that the decisions you make when you’re angry often result in negative consequences.
So what is the best thing to do when you are angry?
Instead of giving an answer based on rationalization, I will give you a scientifically proven way to effectively deal with negative emotions.
A study published in 2017 found that accepting your bad feeling is the best way to deal with it.
It is ironic because people who were able to feel negative emotions were actually happier than those who deny their emotion.
In addition, feeling your negative emotions will also make you happy as the study suggests.
The first author of the study, Dr. Maya Tamir concluded:
“Happiness is more than simply feeling pleasure and avoiding pain. Happiness is about having experiences that are meaningful and valuable, including emotions that you think are the right ones to have.
All emotions can be positive in some contexts and negative in others, regardless of whether they are pleasant or unpleasant.”
Most people hate negative feelings. That’s why they react when they experience or sense the impending sad event.
However, avoidance is not the best way to deal with negative emotions. It is understanding and acceptance.
Understand what it is that you are feeling. Are you frustrated, angry, or agitated?
The next thing to do is accepting your true emotion. Do not deny it.
Breath. Get some fresh air. This will allow you to relax.
Smile and change your inner conversation. Instead of telling yourself that you’re upset, change the words. Make them positive.
Do not put blame on others. No matter how bad you feel, do not point fingers. Take responsibility.
The only person who is responsible for your life and own feeling is you.
Don’t waste your time on self-pity and regret. Accept what has happened and move on.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.