Natalie Brooke wrote an article entitled “Getting Married Is Not An Accomplishment.” In the said article, Natalie argues that getting married is not an achievement. She further argues that there are many valuable things a woman should consider than marriage itself.
“In my opinion, getting married should never be put in a higher regard than the academic and professional successes that women work hard to attain. You don’t have to have a brain, drive or special skill set to get married. You just have to have a willing partner. However, getting into X school, graduating with Y degree, and landing Z job does require actual hard work.”
I understand that Natalie’s emphasis here is, although marriage is huge life’s event of a woman, it should not be considered as the most important achievement. Although this is true, Natalie’s argument is subjective in nature. Therefore, marriage or getting married may mean different things to different women.
While it is true that marriage is not the only thing in woman’s life, finding someone to marry is a tremendous task. To me, (as a married man) this is equally critical as attaining an educational degree or finding a career. It requires a lot of thinking. Thus, one’s mind must work. Failing in a relationship is damaging to losing a job.
Natalie also said that “You don’t have to have a brain, drive or special skill set to get married. You just have to have a willing partner.” I think getting married is more complex than this. Marriage to me is more than an act of will, it involves a thorough examination of man’s or woman’s personality attributes.
Women are therefore cannot marry a man without understanding or be sizing a man’s behavior. Failure to do so creates potential threats to the relationship – divorce.
Is getting married an accomplishment?
It depends on how marriage works and how one considers it. As I mentioned above, this topic is subjective. For some people, marriage may not be that important, but for some, marriage is a woman’s achievement. This is the reason why most women are excited to get married.
Our society is indeed has changed. Women become bolder. They no longer stay at home but rather society’s contributors. Natalie is absolutely right when she says:
“Women are entrepreneurs, lawyers, teachers, CEOs, inventors, designers, researchers, writers, consultants and so much more. Women are going to college and then getting their masters and doctorate degrees. Women are endlessly working to climb up the corporate ladder. Women are key figures in our government. Women are changing the world with their innovation.”
Indeed, women are no longer subservient to men. Gone are the days when women’s goal in life is to find their future husband.
Why getting married is exciting?
Perhaps, the reason why Natalie is asked most of the time about her relationship than her job is that people are more excited about a relationship than other life’s undertakings. But what makes marriage or relationship more interesting?
I think it’s because marriage is a union of two totally different people – people who were raised by a different set of parenting styles. And because they are different from each other, conflict may arise anytime. So making marriage thrive is a huge challenge. This makes people wonder how the relationship goes between two people.
To conclude, getting married can be an achievement or a tragedy. It depends on how a woman considers it. Therefore marriage is a more subjective reality than an objective one.