How to cope up with bullying?
The internet has been dramatically influencing the world for more than a decade now. It brings many good things to life in many aspects.
However, such advancement sometimes takes its toll. Physical and mental health issues also become worse and worse which are believed to be emanating from the online interaction.
Most people, especially the millennials experiencing issues with the online world. In fact, depression is almost always linked to online surfing.
The internet also becomes a medium for some to exploit and hurt others. If you read the recent news, you can see that many children experienced online bullying. This is not the only negative effect of the internet. There are many actually.
Bullying is not new. Back in the day when the internet was not yet invented, there were already victims of bullying. However, the degree was not as worse as today.
How to cope up with bullying?
If you reading this article, it is more likely that you know someone who experienced such misconduct. Or, you might have personally experienced it. Chances are you seek for an answer.
I am not an expert who knows everything about bullying and how to totally stop other people from doing it. I just want to give you a few things that can help you and other people.
In this post, I will share with you some tips you can use to cope up with bullying.
1. Find people you can trust
Bullying has a devastating effect on people’s emotion and psychological health. In fact, most bullied children show a significant change in their behavior. You can tell that something is wrong with a person who experienced bullying.
If you are bullied, do not forget the fact that you are not alone in that journey. Know that there are people that are ready to help you and be with you along the way.
Choosing a person to confide in however can be a challenge. So the first thing you should do is find a circle of people you can trust. They can be your parents, your close friends, or the counselor in your school.
2. Pick a teacher whom you think you can trust
As a teacher, I encountered students who have emotional issues. They approached me and shared their circumstances with me. If I could resolve the issue, then I would handle it. If not, then I refer them to more trained professionals.
What I am trying to say here is that your teachers can be the first persons you can approach. But I understand that not all of them you feel comfortable being around with. So find the one whom you think can be trusted.
3. Seek help from a guidance counselor
As mentioned, guidance counselors can be the best choice. These professionals are highly trained in cases like bullying. Do not be hesitant.
What I see among many students though is the stigma of being labeled as mentally ill. As a result, many students do not directly go to the guidance office for counseling. They tend to bear the emotional pain alone.
But that is not a good thing to do. There is nothing wrong going to mental health experts. You have to remember that you are not “psychologically ill”. Rather, you are a normal person who needs guidance, understanding, and social support.
In a situation like this, school counselors may be the only people who can understand what you are going through. So seek help from them.
4. Talk to your parents
If you are stressed or experience challenges like bullying, share it with your parents. They should be the first persons that should know your problems. Talk to them about the issues that have been hunting you.
I think no parent will ignore his/her son/daughter. The problem of the young generation is that they rarely talk to their parents about issues such as bullying they experience in school.
Let your parents know how you feel and think about your current situation.
5. Surround yourself with positive people
If you are in a bad situation, surrounding yourself with negative people is not a good idea. It can only turn a bad situation worse.
Find people you can trust. People who can understand you. And confide in them. Share your current challenges. Having true people with you will be enough. You’ll feel stronger and capable of dealing with challenges.
6. Seek help from a therapist
When things seem to be uncontrollable, seeking guidance from a therapist can be the best option. Again, forget the stigma. There is nothing wrong with going to a therapist.
Therapists are trained professionals for situations like this. These professionals can give you better choices in life in which you can follow.
The good thing about talking to a therapist is that you can assure that all the experiences you shared will remain confidential. In this way, you are free to confide all your feelings.
7. Discover a hobby
Spending your time doing something you love can be a good idea to divert your mind from negative experiences. Ask yourself about the things that you are interested in. Maybe it’s a painting, book reading, or outdoor activities.
Rearing a pet can also be a good idea. Studies show that people who have pets are happier than those who don’t have pets. Whatever pets you like does not matter. The important thing is that they can make you smile and lighten up your day.
Bullying is a serious issue. In fact, some victims had committed suicide. If you are a victim, do not allow yourself to be defeated. Do something. The tips on how to cope up with bullying shared in this post can be a good starting point.
However, in worse cases, I highly recommend that you seek help and guidance from mental health professionals. Always remember that you are not alone. There is help coming if you just look for it.
It is my best hope that people (you) find something helpful in this post. If you do, please share it with your friends who are struggling with the same issue.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.