How to stop being introverted?
Introverts tend to isolate themselves from the crowd. They are often considered to be reserved and aloof. As a result, introverts don’t like it whenever they’re in the presence of others. In most cases, introverts don’t take responsibility for leadership. So they are more of a follower than a leader.
Although there’s nothing wrong being an introvert, sometimes it creates problems and challenges in life. Because they are not socially oriented, introverts sometimes have difficulties in finding a solution to their problems especially if the solution involves communicating with others.
In this case, introverts’ fate is hindered by their fear of dealing with other people. Success in any area of life involves communication with others. If you don’t go out from your comfort zone, you will find yourself left behind.
Can an introvert change? Introversion is a personality construct that had been long thought to be unchangeable. But recently, psychological experts are gradually realizing that even personality traits can be changed. So it is possible that an introvert can change into anyone.
If you are an introvert who struggles to change yourself into a better communicator, this article is for you. Here I will share with you some of the tips that you can use to assimilate yourself under life circumstances. You will learn how to stop being introverted and become a better person that you always dream of. Consider the following tips:
1. Know thyself
The very first thing you need to do if you want to change yourself is by understanding who you really are. The question “who am I?” sounds so simple but if you dig into it seriously, you’ll find the layers of your personhood that creates more questions than answer.
Many people in the past spent thousands of hours in their lives trying to understand the self. They end up creating their own responses. But none of which can be held ubiquitous. Everyone has his/her own meaning of the self.
In your case (as an introvert), you don’t have to know everything about theories in personality and the philosophy of the self in order to understand who you are. You just need to examine the natural version of yourself. Once you’ve figured out the real you, it will be easy to make a stand in every situation that you may encounter. Don’t worry about how the world will judge you.
2. Have a willingness to change
Although a change can be done, it won’t be easy on your part. But if you are determined to do so, then you’re on the right track. To do that, you need to get acquainted with great introverted people. Once you found and learn about them, study their transformation. List down the qualities you love about them. You can develop those characteristics too. Any behavior can be learned. Slowly but strongly turn off the introvert side of you and let the more sociable person come out from that comfort zone.
3. Be different
Changing yourself from an introvert into an extrovert will take time. The key to such metamorphosis is practice. You need to practice the behavior or a type of person you want to be. This involves acting or doing the opposite. If you are accustomed to being reserved, you practice socializing with your friends and new acquaintances. Learn how to deal with your fear and anxiety being with others. This is scary but there is no other way. So be comfortable with the process.
4. Learn from others
Whenever you are in a group, notice how introverts and extroverts behave. Introverts often the listeners and extroverts are the ones who are initiating the conversation. Observe how the extroverts do that and try to apply those behaviors to yourself. Do they the first who break the silence? Are they the ones who first ask questions in class? What made them confident enough to have performed the behavior you scared of doing? Extroverts often do these things and you should too.
Changing one’s personality is a tough choice. No one can change somebody unless he/she chooses to do so. If you are an introvert who wants to become a bit extrovert, it is more likely that you succeed in your goal as long as you are committed to it. It will be hard at first but as you continue to unleash the hidden version of yourself, everything will be just fine.
I hope that these tips on how to stop being introverted help you in reaching your goal. If you learn more about personal development, read more.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.