How to stop being overly sensitive?
The world is full of people who are ready to throw unreasonable acts to deliberately or unconsciously hurt others. Either way, the pain it could cause is beyond one’s approximation.
People who are sensitive may find it difficult to thrive in a hostile environment. They are more prone to painful emotional experience.
Oversensitivity is a weakness that could drag anyone down and constrain him/her from achieving goals or making bold moves.
However, being sensitive may also have several benefits. This may include the ability to easily examine emotional hazard that is affecting your emotional state. In addition, it will also allow you to predict and prepare for future circumstances that could affect you as a person in general.
A sensitive person is often an empathic one. He/she is able to size up the feelings of others making him/her able to relate and deal with others’ needs. A sensitive person will also be able to help others who are psychologically and mentally in need. He/she can be a best friend you ever have.
However, if you allow your sensitivity to drive your life, you may not be able to maximize your full potential. Your decisions will be limited due to the overwhelming fear that controls you.
But I have a good news for you. You can change yourself and become less sensitive. But first, you have to make a choice. Do you really want to change who you are? Are you ready to transform that sensitivity into a toughness?
If you have already decided, then this post is for you. Here, I will share with you some basic yet effective steps to transform yourself into someone else. Here’s how to stop being overly sensitive.
1. Accept who you really are
The first thing you need to do to make some modifications in yourself is accepting who you really are. This will allow you to have some space in you. Or, make yourself capable of absorbing new ideas and strategies necessary for building a tougher version of yourself.
2. Develop a new brand of belief system
Know that one contributor of your over sensitive personality is your own attitude towards yourself. You are accustomed to being a recipient of others’ deliberate insult or gaslighting. But in reality, you are the only one who thinks that. The truth is nobody cares about you and how you feel.
If you continue to act that way, you will be defeated by your own illusion. So change that belief system. Realize that you owe nothing from the world. You have nothing to explain or apologize. And most importantly, you have done nothing wrong and there is no reason to be ashamed of.
3. Stay rational, not emotional
There is an old belief that explains this well. It states that the reason why the head is placed on the highest part of the body is that it contains the brain that houses the cognitive realm. The brain (your head) does all the logical thinking that you should follow not your emotion.
If you are a sensitive person, your decisions often the result of your emotion. The worse part? Almost always, your decisions are faulty because they are emotionally driven not by reason.
Transforming yourself from a sensitive to someone tough enough to deal with challenges is not easy. You have to change your thinking and emotional pattern.
4. Find professional help
Sometimes it is difficult to do things alone especially when it comes to behavioral or emotional modification. If you think you cannot do it alone, then you may need some help. Find a guidance from a mental health professional or from a person whom you can confide.
In this process, however, you don’t need to fully follow what others are saying. You still need to promulgate your own will. Listen to your rational mind.
5. Change the way you see the world
Part of the process of how to stop being overly sensitive is a cognitive modification. Change your faulty perception of the people around you. They are not there to hurt you or do wrong onto you. They are not there to bring your ideas and goals down. It is you who sabotage the reality.
6. Do not try to control everything
You cannot control what others are thinking about you. In the same manner, you cannot control how people perceive the experience you share with them. You cannot change how they judge you. The only thing that you can control is your emotional responses. Thus, the only thing that you can control is you. So don’t be bothered. Leave the world as it is. Mind your own business.
7. Come out of your comfort zone
The only way to change yourself is by leaving your comfort zone and choose the hard way. Only in hardship, you will be able to forge toughness. Challenge yourself to go further into the unfamiliar land. Only then you’ll be able to see the color of the world that you haven’t seen before.
8. Embrace changes and never afraid
Lastly, the ultimate way to change yourself is by accepting change in yourself. Change your thinking pattern, change your words, change your perception of the world, and change how you interact with other people. But this is the greatest challenge you’ve ever attempted in your life though. Endure the pain.
Changing the world can be easier sometimes than changing yourself. But if the decision emanates from within, you can totally do it. I hope that tips on how to stop being overly sensitive help you in building the better version of yourself. Others have done it. You can too!
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.