How to stop being scared of failure?
Fear of failure is common to all of us. We are afraid to fail at something. This is also the reason why most people do not succeed in life because they don’t want to fail.
But why do most people are scared of failure? Well, this goes back to school teachings. Educational systems around the world teach students to avoid mistakes. In school, failing grades will certainly rule you out of school.
This mistakes avoidance conditioned the minds of many. As a result, as a college graduate enters the real world, he/she avoids failure. The only problem is that because he/she is trained to avoid failure, he/she will not take a chance to try new things.
Therefore, the fear of failure hinders the mind to be creative and productive. No wonder why young people who have just graduated from college end up for other people and achieve the goals of their boss but never theirs.
I am not saying that school is useless. I love school and all the basic information I get from college. You just need to realize that school does not teach you everything you need to know. There are so many things that you are yet to learn and discover in real life.
So, what you can do to stop being scared of failure?
There are many things you can do to confidently face your fear. They all stem from the mind. This means that you need to restructure how you think about your current circumstance.
In this post, I will share with you some of the things you can do. These techniques work well for me. But this does not mean that these tips will work for you too. Nonetheless, these things are worth considering:
Reframe your thinking pattern
As mentioned, all the techniques that I’ll be discussing here require a restructuring of the mind. This is because all the emotions are a reflection on how you see your reality. Usually, you feel afraid due to overthinking about the impending negative experience. For instance, because you are afraid of rejection, you start doubting yourself and thinking that you are not good enough. As a result, you abandoned your goal because you are too scared to fail.
There are at least two major problems here. First, your fear is based on unfounded belief. You don’t know for sure if the goal is indeed unachievable or if you will really fail.
Second, fear limits you from achieving something significant in your life. As a result, you won’t be able to fully discover your true potential.
Because your fear is irrational, you can stop being scared by re-tuning your thinking pattern. Instead of fearing the unknown, try to rationalize whether or not the situation is really fearful. Most importantly, take one step to actually learn and discover the thing that you are scared about. The only way to stop the fear is actually doing what scares you.
What I mean by this is that you need to understand that a fearful situation is real. Know that it will not be easy for you. But I want you to believe in yourself and see yourself getting through that challenge.
As I’ve said, be realistic. Nothing lasts forever even fear. It will subside. But the best thing about recognizing the reality of the situation is that it will help you develop effective strategies. It will make you more prepared.
For instance, if you want to start something that you have no prior knowledge about, the fear of failure at this point is real. But instead of quitting from your goal, what you can do is start anyway. You just need to realize that the path ahead is difficult. The most important question is not what makes you fail but what makes you succeed.
Stop focusing on the negative side
Most people scared of failure simply because they mainly focus on what could possibly go wrong. If you focus on the negative side, you are literally building a sense of fear and doubt. People who cultivate a thinking pattern like this are most likely fail.
You have to understand that nothing can hurt or scare you it is how you perceive the situation that determines your emotion. This is the reason why each one of us has a different or contrasting reaction to the same experience. We differ the way we perceive our world.
But those who are able to remain calm are in most cases become more successful. While those who mainly focus on the negative side of the situation are stuck.
If you want to know how to stop being scared of failure, start from focusing on the positive side.
Repaint the failure
The main reason why most people easily get scared of failure is that people associate failure as bad. Such negative connotation reinforces the avoidance of failure itself. If you want to lessen the fear of failure, you need to change the way you interpret failure.
In reality, failure is not really a bad thing. In real life, failure makes you stronger and powerful. It is the best teacher but the hardest one.
Life does not operate the way the school system works. In real life, you need failure in order to succeed. In school, every hard work is rewarded. In life, it does not matter how hard you work. In fact, hard work alone will not give you the expected result.
Instead of thinking failure as bad, view it as beneficial in achieving success. No successful person who has not experienced failure.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.