How to successfully have a long distance relationship?
A long distance relationship has a tremendous amount of challenges. In fact, only a few long-distance relationships survive. Most people, this may include you, believe that long-distance romance would only end up in a breakup.
Although breakups happen to most long distance relationship, it does not mean that all relationships of this kind certainly end. There are some exceptions.
Any relationship can thrive if necessary ingredients are present. Having said this, I would like to share some secrets of successful relationships.
Yes, there are important components of a thriving relationship more so in a long distance romance. Here are a few of them:
Willingness to sacrifice
Most young people tend to believe that a relationship will give them happiness and inspirations. Well, that is true to some degree. But the relationship, whatever its kind, is not what most young people may have thought. A relationship always involves sacrifices.
You need to be willing to do your part. Most of the time, this is not easy. Imagine to leave or to be left by your partner due to an important reason like a job transfer, schooling, or other circumstance that separate you. In this case, you need to understand and sacrifice your “togetherness”.
This may be a very difficult challenge for both of you. But this is how to successfully have a long distance relationship.
Don’t expect too much
When you are apart, you tend to demand time for each other. This is not difficult for today’s communication advances. In just one click, you will be able to connect with your loved one.
The biggest hurdle, however, is time. This happens especially if your partners are working in a very demanding job. He/she might have no specific time to answer your call. Sometimes, this creates misunderstanding among couples in a long-distance relationship.
But the real reason is that one party may have a high level of expectation. You need to understand that there are many things you can’t control. In this instance, you need to trust and lower your expectation for your partner.
Do something else
Instead of thinking about your partner all the time, try to keep yourself busy on something else. Don’t focus so much on what’s going on in your relationship. This will give your mind a break. As long as you can, find a reason to be happy and productive regardless of what is happening.
Well, this will not be easy especially if it is your first time away from your partner. But you will be accustomed to it little by little. Keeping yourself busy can be a good way for you to effectively deal with your situation.
Maintain an open communication
Communication is one of the most important components of a successful relationship. But in a long distance relationship, this can be the most challenging. Dealing with a long distance romance is entirely different from a close relationship. But if you really want to make your relationship lasts, keep an open communication.
Speak whatever in your mind you want to voice out. Share your ideas openly with your partner. An open communication helps aid that feeling of emptiness in you. Again, this may not be easy but you can definitely do this.
So, this is how to successfully have a long distance relationship. It is my best hope that these tips will help you effectively and successfully deal with your long distance relationship. Good luck!
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.