The key to lasting relationships.
Because an intimate relationship brings us happiness, we all want to involve ourselves in that realm. But we don’t just want to enter into a relationship, we also want to keep it work and last.
However, entering into a relationship is much easier than making it lasts. Almost everyday divorce incidents happen around the world.
But few people manage to achieve lasting relationships. Surely, they have done something that most of the divorced couples don’t do.
Mark Manson, author, and blogger conducted a little survey of successful couples. There were over 1,500 successful couples participated in this study.
The main objective was to ask their secret to achieve lasting relationships. The couples revealed the secret.
The key to lasting relationships
Surprisingly, the result is in contrast to what most people think. Here’s what Manson found:
As we scanned through the hundreds of responses we received, my assistant and I began to notice an interesting trend.
People who had been through divorces and/or had only been with their partners for 10-15 years almost always talked about communication being the most important part of making things work. Talk frequently. Talk openly. Talk about everything, even if it hurts.
And there is some merit to that (which I’ll get to later).
But we noticed that the thing people with marriages going on 20, 30, or even 40 years talked about most was respect.
This might be the most valuable piece of relationship advice. A simple research that could tremendously help develop a healthy relationship.
It provides a window to a wider understanding of the intimate relationship.
Respect becomes a basal standard. To me, this is the only law that is applicable to all areas of life.
If people learn to respect each, the world will become one. This is also true in a relationship. If couples respect and treat their partners equally, there will be lasting relationships.
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I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.