Is there a meaningful life after a breakup?
It is not easy to carry the pain when you have just broken up with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Although some people are very good at handling this type of burden, the pain can be devastating.
After a divorce or breakup, people might ask whether or not there is still hope that lies ahead for them. Fortunately, I have something to share with you today. Here are the four important things you need to know:
1. Pain is temporary.
Yes, you can still have a meaningful life ahead of you. The pain that you are experiencing right now is just temporary. In the course of time, everything will subside. Time will heal your pain. Then, you can fall in love again.
Don’t blame yourself or others. Maybe there was a problem with your past relationship or marriage, but it does not mean that you live in it forever. Never underestimate yourself. You can still find love or good life after a breakup or divorce. People will love you not because of your past experience but because of who you are.
2. You can manipulate the pain.
Yes, you can have a productive and meaningful life after a painful experience. But right now, you need to get yourself busy. Find productive activities and focus on them. Because if you focus on your pain, you’ll be defeated by your emotion. Life is phenomenal, don’t lose it for just a stupid breakup. Get back up. You have the right to be happy.
3. What you see is not the whole reality.
It is easy to be lost in pain. When you’re depressed, your brain can not gain focus. So you are divided and uncertain. But again, pain is just temporary. It is not your whole reality. It’s just a small piece of your experience. If you just open your eyes, there’s a huge opportunity for you to love and live a meaningful life once and for all.
4. Life is already meaningful.
Either you experience breakup or not, life is already meaningful as it is. The thing is, it is not your experience that defines your meaning of existence but the way you perceive your current reality. Your mind creates a mental picture of your own world. You are the painter. It’s up to you what color you will use. So be careful. Don’t treat your self badly just because of divorce. You have a meaningful life ahead of you.
Life will not end at divorce or break up. It’s just a temporary shut down. Get up and recharge. Your happiness could be one step far.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.