How mentally strong people live their lives?
The world demands so many things from us. We are required to comply all sorts of responsibilities. From school, job, to relationship demands, we always try to accomplish them all.
Unfortunately, we are not passionate about everything. Chances are, we end up doing things we don’t like. Such circumstance tests our mental toughness. Not all people can deal with it. But some people manage life demands very effectively.
Those who were able to stay focused and determined are mentally strong people. When the majority retreat, they hover over challenges.
Most people believe that mental toughness is biologically determined. But it isn’t. Like other abilities, it can also be developed. With enough effort and determination, you’ll achieve it.
Mental toughness comes with emotional intelligence. The good news is, anyone can be developed into an emotionally intelligent person.
If you want to become mentally tough, you can observe how emotionally intelligent people deal with life. Through observation, you’ll find that emotionally intelligent people avoid certain behaviors. They deliberately do it because they know that those behaviors are detrimental to them.
Here are the behaviors that mentally strong people avoid:
1. Staying in the comfort zone.
Mentally tough people are never comfortable in safe places. Instead, they love challenges and adventures. So they always set their sails to the unknown. Staying in a comfort zone is dangerous. It provides no learning and deteriorates mental capacity. Above all, hinders self-discovery.
2. Letting the fear controls them.
Mentally strong people are not extraordinary. They are just brilliant enough to foresee how unproductive fear is. Of course, being afraid of something is a natural human response to a fearful situation. And it helps us to thrive. However, letting fear to control you diminishes your ability to reach your goal. Mentally strong people feel the same fear, but they fight back. They never avoid it, they just take control of it.
3. Losing self-belief.
It is easy to give up. The majority of us might easily subscribe to the idea that everything is hard – that quitting is the most affordable luxury available to all. However, mentally strong people avoid this trap. Not only they love challenges, they also embrace failure. Failing makes them strong. Most importantly, failure makes them wiser. Whether or not no one believes in them, in their ideas and opinions, they never stop believing in themselves. Every crushing or demeaning statement fuels them for extra miles.
4. Being in the spotlight.
While most people love attention, mentally tough people never beg for it. They are not comfortable doing any boastful act to promote their own achievements and aspirations. They never care whether or not people notice them. What they care about is how they can attain their own goal.
5. Living in the past.
We all have negative experiences. In fact, some people have countless of those bad memories. And the majority of us find it hard to let go. But mentally strong people never let the past holds them back. They never dwell on yesterdays. Instead, they live in the “now”. For them, it is not a question of where they came from but where they should go. It is always the test of heart knowing how far they could reach.
6. Hanging with negative people.
Stress is like a contagious disease – it can easily be transferred. Thus, if you go with negative and stressful people, you will very easily be affected by the negativity. Emotionally intelligent people are clever. They don’t allow any negativity breaks their focus. As a result, they avoid negative people.
7. Feeling self-pity.
Mentally strong people are not perfect. They commit mistakes and failures too. However, they don’t feel pity for themselves. They always get up when fell down. They dare to go to places where cowards won’t go. And they make extra mile when there’s nothing left in them. Emotionally intelligent people never feel sorry when they fail. Not because they don’t feel the pain, but because they don’t want to give up.
8. Close their minds.
Emotionally intelligent people always open their minds to new possibilities and information. Gaining new knowledge is more than important to them. No matter how insignificant an information may look like, they never underestimate it. Instead, they look at it in different perspectives. This is the reason why mentally strong people more often see opportunities than negativities.
9. Letting others control them.
Listening to others’ opinion is helpful. But you should know the limit. You don’t want others to control all your decisions. Mentally strong people never afraid deviating from the norm. They never follow the cliché. Instead, they make their own track. No matter what others may say to them, they never get annoyed. Because emotionally intelligent people are proud of their actions. They don’t compare themselves with others.
10. Feeling envy.
Mentally strong people understand that they have nothing to do with the success of others. The most important for them is their own success. And becoming successful is not limited to the few. Anyone can achieve it. So there’s no reason for them to feel jealous and envy for others’ breakthrough. Because sooner or later, they will too!
In sum, mental toughness is a skill that can be learned. We can be almost anything; we can achieve any goal if we just decide. It all starts with a proper mindset and determination. If you are determined or willing enough, you’ll become one of the mentally strong people around you.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.