Are modern relationships got a different form of love?
Modern relationships are no different compared to those in early nineteen century. Love has the same shape and form. People are still social animals who longed to be loved and be loved. But the society we are in today suggests an alarming fact. In the United States alone the estimated number of divorce is 876,000 per year.
What paralyzes modern relationships?
This statistical figure worth a hundred questions. In fact, one of the articles asks why modern relationships are falling apart so easily today. The question is interesting. The author suggests that the reason why most relationships today fail is because people become preoccupied.
“We immerse ourselves in the inconsequentials of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships. We’re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there’s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience.”
Although the reasons stated above are valid, some points must be considered too. Basically, love never changes. It is still the same. People are still busy achieving something valuable in this life. People have the same amount of time as those who lived decades ago. There’s no great change. What changes is people’s pattern of thinking.
On the same article mentioned above, the author emphasizes the gigantic change happened on how people value relationship these days.
“We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred anymore.”
Again this is a little misconception. People still value relationship. It is marriage that is getting less valuable, not relationship. The number of people who surf online for a date is indicative that relationship is still valuable.
In addition, divorce basically is not generally due to individual differences, or due to technological advancement; relationship failure is due to too many available choices. As a result, modern relationships suffer from a lack of commitment.
The society allows people to break the marriage and re-marry. This societal norm boosts people’s confidence to easily quit on a relationship and build another one. It’s the legal basis that strengthens the brittleness of modern relationship.
What do you think?
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.