They are not naughty kids, they are just misunderstood.
Parenting is really challenging. Parents often complain about their children’s behaviors. When kids don’t follow instructions or at least listen to their parents, almost everyone thinks that the child is naughty. But research shows that kids aren’t acting badly. They just want to show their feelings and behaviors. But parents interpret it wrongly.
When kids don’t follow instructions or at least listen to their parents, almost everyone thinks that the child is naughty. But research shows that kids aren’t acting badly. They just want to show their feelings and behaviors. But parents interpret them wrongly.
Here are some seemingly naughty kids’ behaviors
Most parents angrily react when their child does not listen to them. This is because most parents believe that children at the age of 3 can already understand instructions. But the truth is, when children can’t control their impulse and don’t follow instructions, they aren’t stubborn. They simply incapable of controlling themselves. Research suggests that a region of a child’s brain that is responsible for self-control is not yet fully developed. Self-control starts to become active during adolescence. This is the reason why children can’t manage their impulses.
Sometimes children are hard to control. They get angry, impatient, and irritable so easily. These behaviors indicate that your child is hungry, thirsty, and sleepy. Because children are incapable of communicating their needs, they use behaviors that might not desirable for parents.
When children screaming, yelling, or crying, parents will easily get irritated. As a result, children would get punished. But the reality is, children are not capable of getting rid of their emotions yet. They can’t use defense mechanisms to lessen their feelings. So the right thing that parents should do is to let their children show their emotions. Janet Lansbury suggests that it is a good practice to let children express their big emotions.
Children often put things disorganized. They love to be “silly and “goofy”. They interrupt their parent’s chores. But they don’t mean it. They just want to try new things and explore as far as they could. So parents should not penalize them for their behavior. Parents should be pleased that their child develops autonomy.
If you see these behaviors among children, they are not naughty kids. Maybe it’s just a wrong assessment.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.