Do children with divorced parents have a normal emotional lifestyle?
Parents have tremendous influences on children’s emotional or personality developments. The reason behind is that parents are the first people children see around them. Thus, what children see from their parents will more likely become their behavioral basis.
How about children who grew up with absent parents? Do they develop a normal emotional lifestyle?
The answers to these questions are varied. Probably the most valid ones come from true life experiences rather than from scientific research. Below are different answers from Quora. See whether or not these answers really speak reality.
The original question is, “Do you think kids who grow up with absent parent(s), can ultimately lead a normal emotional lifestyle?”
1. Stacey Maines wrote;
Yes I believe they can. Although statistically the odds are not in their favor it does happen.
I have a close friend I have known since we were 11. She never knew who her biological dad was and her mother abused drugs. She went to live with her grandma when she was about 12. She was the oldest of 9 kids all from different dads. Her sister was born when she was in high school and came to live with her grandma to. When her sister was around 8 she took custody and raised her along with her 14 yr old brother who was getting into trouble. She was only 23 and going to college while working as waitress raising her siblings. My friend is very successful in her life, she graduated high school with honors. She graduated a university. With a masters degree in teaching. She teaches 5th grade now. She is married to a very good man and has little 2 boys. Owns a home. Her mom comes to her when she need help. Which takes an emotional toll on her that still her mom cant clean herself up yet.
The only way I think her parents absence affected her was she was an over achiever, she pushed her self often to be so perfect. She thought about going to graduate school because she always needed more. The other way it affected her was in her earlier relationships, she always found something wrong with every guy she dated and would end the relatiinship. One guy she broke up with for not being motivated enough to exercise like bike riding. She finally found someone she married and has finally let her self be happy, she is almost 40 now.
2. Robin Bailey wrote;
Yes, but there will most likely be issues and emotions that are inevitable to deal with. Of course, 2 loving and caring parents is the best scenario for a child, but having an absent parent could be the better scenario if the absent parent is unloving, abusive, or excessively lazy in their responsibilities of their parental role.
I grew up with an absent Dad, and a stepfather who often left a lot to be desired in a parental type of relationship with me. Today I’m happily married, and have 2 really great children who will never know or experience those same issues.
I have many friends who were missing a parent who have grown up into relatively normal functioning, productive citizens. Ultimately, they all did what they had to do to succeed. They all have missing parent issues emotionally, but that is to be expected. Generally, they all manage those issues and go on with their lives.
3. Ron Pleece wrote;
I believe they will survive, whether they had both original parents or not there is no guarantee they will turn out right in the head, and now days no one takes responsibility for anything, there are just so many things your poor choices or failures can be blamed on, that do not include any fault of your own. I grew up without a father, had I grown up with him, I may not have liked him much, he drank a lot, got in many fights, enjoyed pushing people to the point they lost control of their anger or fear, he had little fear or regrets. When sober he was loved by all, an would go out his way for a stranger, he was a teacher and there was standing room only at his funeral. There are things I understand of his ways but still disliked, there are many things he and I had in common but likely out of choice refused to be like him in the ways I disliked. He died when I was 3 and I do not believe I would be different had he lived, even so I would not use that excuse, we all choose our paths, make our own decisions on what to do with our knowledge and experiences, and truly know right from wrong, it is always easier to blame someone or something else.
How about you? Do you also believe that children who grow up without parents can develop a normal emotional lifestyle? Leave your thoughts below.
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