How to Deal With Porn Addiction When It Creates Problems

Is porn use healthy or unhealthy?

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Pornography is a controversial topic. Some experts strongly believe that it can hurt relationships, will lead to sexual addiction, and sexual aggression.

However, on the other side of the argument, others believe that it can actually boost intimate relationship. In fact, in some studies, it was found that porn usage did actually decrease sexual aggression and assault.

Both sides of the arguments may be credible. But whether you think it bad or good, you can’t deny the fact that people actually love porn.

Many studies have found that many people from anywhere in the word watch pornographic materials.

But not all of those people found problems in their relationships or in any aspect of their lives. This fact alone creates questions for researchers who want to understand this subject.

Pieces of scientific evidence clash against each other. Like the argument presented above, research findings have two sides: the positive and negative.

For instance, in a study, the researchers examined the possible effect of pornography. With the increasing use of porn use, the researchers believed that it can negatively affect not only on the individual but also on the societal level.

The effect of porn viewing on relationship

Because the effect of pornography is not ubiquitous, some are affected while others aren’t. For instance, a team of researchers found that excessive porn use can hurt romantic relationships.

This result was supported by another study. In 2013 study, the finding suggests that porn use among men was associated with decreased quality of sexual activity. However, the effect on women was different. It actually associated with sexual quality among women.

The researchers believed that the contrasting result was due to the difference in porn viewing habits between men and women. Men watch porn alone. While women want to watch porn with their partner prior to sexual activity. This is because women want to incorporate the visual materials into their lovemaking behavior.

But because studies in this area are still lacking, no one can draw a clear picture. It is hard to say whether or not the decrease in sexual quality and relationship satisfaction in most studies were the result of porn use. This is because porn usage can also be the outcome of poor relationship satisfaction.

In the previous study, for instance, the association may have two implications. It could be that men had initially lost their interest in their partner resulting in their porn use. Or, because they habitually use porn, they lost interest in their partners which resulted in poor sexual quality.

Understanding the impact of pornography on relationship and sexual satisfaction

To attain a clearer view, a recent study was conducted online. The survey primarily asked people about porn use, their relationship and sexual satisfaction. More than 10,000 people responded to the study. Most of the participants were women.

The questionnaire specifically measured the online porn use, the frequency, and the kind of pornographic materials usually watched by the participants. Correlational analyses were used to determine the possible correlations and moderating impacts among factors.

The result suggests that seventy percent of women and ninety-eight percent of men watched porn online for the last six months. The participants who were reported to use porn more frequently admitted that they had difficulty in controlling their urge.

In addition, men who use porn more frequently were reported to have a lower relationship quality and sexual satisfaction. On the other hand, a reverse association between porn use and length of relationship was found among women. This may imply that women who stay longer in a relationship tend to watch online pornography less frequently.

Is porn use really a problematic habit?

The answer to this question can be very subjective. Some people may see pornography as helpful while others think it as detrimental. If porn use is damaging to your relationship and sexual satisfaction, then you need to weigh possibilities. You need to consider the value of your current relationship. Is it worthy of salvaging?

Sometimes deciding which route to take can be difficult especially when children are important factors of the equation. In most cases, the children are the first absorber of the effect of a collapsed relationship. But sometimes, the children can also become the most important reason why couples save their relationship.

How to deal with pornography when it creates a problem?

Porn addiction is a condition which is characterized by a compulsive urge to view pornographic materials despite the negative results of doing so. But how do you know that you are already addicted to pornography?

You are addicted to porn if you;

  1. can’t control your desire to watch pornographic materials,
  2. do anything just to watch it,
  3. spend increasing time in viewing it,
  4. spend most of your time watching pornography,
  5. don’t stop watching even if your daily activities were already impaired,
  6. feel desperate or sad when you can’t watch,
  7. never stop watching despite its negative effect on your relationship or family
  8. isolate yourself just to watch porn.

If you experience some of these signs, you may be already addicted to pornography. The best option you have is finding a professional help. The treatment may involve the following:

  1. Behavioral Inpatient Treatment – this involves admitting an individual in a hospital or any facility that allows the patient to recover from the condition.
  2. Behavioral Outpatient Programs – this does not require patients to stay in a treatment facility. Its main purpose is to help the patients identify the triggers of addiction and help them develop better choices and coping skills.
  3. Group therapy – this process allows the patient to meet people who have similar experiences. With the help of qualified professionals, the patients will be able to assess others’ similar struggles which they can possibly learn effective coping skills.
  4. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – in this therapy, a patient will be able to assess his/her own line of thinking and behavioral patterns regarding pornography. By modifying the cognitive process, the behavior will follow. Thus, by changing unproductive thoughts into positive, a patient will be able to regain control over his/her actions.
  5. Couples/Family Therapy – this can be helpful especially when a patient is in a relationship. This treatment technique allows the individuals to regain trust and minimize the feelings of guilt and shame.

Aside from these treatment approaches, there are many practices you can apply for free. You can escape porn addiction by understanding its very nature. Remember that it generally emanates from your mind. So modifying your thoughts can be enough to stop it.

Here are some of the quick tips to escape pornography:

  • Develop an exercise habit.
  • Talk to someone.
  • Listen to your favorite songs
  • Cook your favorite foods.

The purpose of these practices is to keep your mind preoccupied which in turn helps you forget your urge in viewing porn.

I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.

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