How to strengthen your relationship?
If you see your relationship doing poorly, probably there are some things you are doing incorrectly or some that you are not doing. According to psychologists, it is easy to strengthen your relationship if you have the right information. Most of them will go ahead to research and offer the best dos and don’ts in any relationship.
The Happymatches website leads by offering a platform where people can meet and start a date. The good thing is they do not leave you there. They have numerous helpful insights on how to make it work. This article highlights what you must do and not do for your relationship to be strong. Here are the tips on how you can strengthen your relationship.
Do Build Emotional Intimacy
Relationship counselors from all over the world agree that most partners have poor emotional intimacy. It is one of the greatest causes of breakups in marriage and other relationships. When people deeply understand each other, they will know and fulfill each other’s needs without any pressure. The shared feelings are a powerful communication tool where one party predicts what the other person wants. Some of the virtues that help to build this include honesty, love, and trust.
Do Protect Your Partner
People want to feel safe from all threats of life. When it comes to protecting your partner, this should be a priority because it makes your partner feel valued. When financial challenges attack your partner, be there for your partner to provide solutions that will solve the problem. Keep encouraging your partner and do not entertain any issue or person who wants to attack your partner. Whether those in opposition to your partner are family, friends or coworkers, be by your partner’s side.
Do Plan Things Together
When one person feels left out in planning major projects in your life, challenges will arise. This is why your partner must know what you are planning in life. In fact, all projects should be brought on the table for discussion where each person will have an input. The language should always be about ‘’our’’ plans. Have both short-term and long-term plans together with the approach you intend to use to execute them.
Do Understand Their Weaknesses
Every person has a weakness. Some of them are beyond control, and one can only live with them. On all these, your partner must be the most understanding person on earth. Your partner needs to learn how to live without attacking or exposing these weaknesses now and then. If possible, one can try and strengthen these weaknesses through corrections, guidance, and love. Some relationship counselors agree that a person can change weaknesses to strengths if the person has someone on her or his side who is understanding and waits for changes patiently.
Don’t Be Violent
Violence is a great contributor to breakups in relationships. Most people do not intend to live with someone who is violent in any manner. Violence can escalate to injuring a partner if it is not controlled, which is dangerous. Some of the things that lead to violence include uncontrolled alcohol consumption, drug abuse, and uncontrolled anger. If you identify a violence trigger, it is better to stop it early.
Don’t Seek Revenge
Trying to seek revenge or get even will not only harm the relationship but can also harm you. Most people who try to retaliate end up regretting it because it produces nothing good. The best thing is to do the right thing like forgiving even if your partner has wronged you. If things get too ugly, you can seek the help of a counselor on the way forward.
Don’t Misuse Finances
Every relationship, and especially marriage, revolves so much around financial management. People can base their relationship success on proper financial management according to experts. When one party starts to misuse the finances, then problems will start to arise. If there is a life plan, it is better to stick to it.
Don’t Play Your Partner
Any relationship will have problems if one party is having an affair. Marriages have broken because of this bad habit people have. Be faithful to your partner to avoid many challenges that include breakup and diseases. If one person is lacking something, it is better to ask for it from your partner.
With the above dos and don’ts, your relationship is likely going to be the most beautiful thing ever. There will be a few challenges, which can be handled with ease by both of you.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.