How to be successful in life?
Success is something that people across generations want to yield. No matter what your age, at some point, you dream to have a nice car, a happy family, a high paying job, a successful business, a nice house, and so on.
We all have a long list of desires – things that we aim for in this life. Some people aim for fame, financial freedom, high education, a big house, a vacation, or power.
We all have dreams. We are so passionate about success. As a result, millions of articles were published online on how to be successful in life.
But is there really a guarantee for success? The truth is there is no single formula on how to be successful. Honestly, it is hard. Success in life follows a paradigm, not a template.
In other words, you can not have a rigid guideline towards success. Because there’s nothing. But there is a paradigm.
What I mean by this is that you don’t have to follow a rule; you just need to figure out how. Successful people have their own personal characteristics that made them successful.
If you think these things make sense to you, use them in your life too. Apply them in your paradigm.
1. Develop a character of a successful person
Character matters in becoming successful in life. Most people who fail did not fail because the strategies they implemented. The reason for their failure is their inappropriate character. You see successful people all the time. And you see people on the streets who have no home to go. Both of these groups have distinctive characters that define their own reality.
The good thing about character development is that you don’t have to invent on your own. You can copy it from successful people. In school, copying is prohibited. But in real life, the quicker you can adapt the characters of successful people, the faster you can attain a successful life.
In fact, Warren Buffet did it. When he was young he made a list of characteristics of successful people. What he discovered totally changed his life forever. According to Warren, all behaviors of successful people are pretty doable by anybody. So he did what successful businessmen did.
Your job as a person who really wants to achieve success in life is to determine what successful people are doing. Then, apply the same behavior to yourself. If they were successful by behaving the way they do, then you can too!
2. Be an eager learner
No one knows everything. What this means is that it is highly possible that you will encounter many things you didn’t encounter before. And if you are new to a situation, you can be susceptible to failure and mistake. But it is totally alright. Don’t be afraid to take risks. Failure is always an opportunity for learning. Instead, you should be curious. Never settle. Always find for improvement. Read books or talk to people who are knowledgeable in the area you want to learn.
Life is never complete. If you think that your learning stops after college graduation, you get it wrong. Because learning is life itself. Being successful means that you are capable of adopting new information. People who failed are people who have a rigid personal construct. Unfortunately, their resistance to change and learning hinders them from becoming successful in life.
3. Treat people well
A good interpersonal relationship is key to any kind of success. To become successful in business or in your career, you need to build a good social connection with others. Remember that you are not operating alone. And don’t think that you can do all things on your own. Whether you like it or not, you need others. People around you are the only people who can help you achieve a successful life.
Wear a smile every day. Happiness is contagious. Let that little seed of joy sprout within you so that others can enjoy your company too. A honey attracts more flies than a vinegar. So treat others well.
4. Don’t take everything too seriously
Of course, to be successful in life, you need a certain amount of concentration and seriousness. But do not blind yourself with too much seriousness. Serious people often get overwhelmed by the amount of work.
When we were a child, we did not care too much of everything. We just walk, stumble, laugh, cry and laugh again. But when we get enough knowledge of the world, our life becomes more serious and heavier. We started to feel fear, anxiety and worry for many things including our bad experiences. In fact, some people can’t let go of their past.
However, if you cling to your negative experiences, your journey towards success can be hard. You can’t cry over a spilled milk forever. Learn to let go and move on.
5. Be willing to work hard
Any goal no matter how small requires hard work. Thus, you need to be honest with yourself. Be ready to do your part. Understand that the only thing that connects between your dream and reality is work. The higher the goal, the harder the work it requires. It is always proportionate. Are you committed enough to produce hard work? That’s the only question.
People who are successful in life do not just set their goals, they work hard. Even if they failed over and over again in their journey, they never surrender work. The best thing about this is that hard work always pays.
6. Expect success
Have you heard the saying, “Fake it until you make it”? The lesson in it is that whatever you do, you need to believe in yourself. Although it may sound weird, it’s a requirement. You need to picture yourself as a successful person. Believing in yourself helps you become stronger to face procrastination and failure. Because if you don’t, what else do you have?
To be successful in life, you need to be a great person in words, in action, and in your mind. Your outcome, your success, and failure are the reflections of your totality. So decide your own path. Live your life the way you want not what people’s want. Make your own definition of success.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.