How parents of successful kids groom their children?
There are many parenting styles parents can use to mold their children’s behavior. However, there is no consensus as to what is the best parenting style.
Nevertheless, science found that future success depends on early parenting strategies. Parents of successful kids have common parenting strategies. These strategies are not observed among parents of less fortunate children.
Here’s what parents of successful kids have in common:
1. They give their children responsibility early on.
Letting a child do basic chores early in life helps him to develop a sense of responsibility. Taking care of small things conditions a child’s mind about living in the future. The early children learn to handle responsibility, the greater their chance of attaining success in the future.
2. They teach their child to socialize.
We are social animals. Survival depends on our ability to connect with others. Parents of successful kids understand that socialization skill is a process that needed to be established early on. And children who learned to connect to the wider world become more effective in their respective workplaces later in their lives. In fact, one study suggests that socialization skill can help children succeed in their later lives.
“The good news is that social and emotional skills can improve,” said Damon Jones, PhD, a senior research associate at Pennsylvania State and one of the authors of this study. “This research by itself doesn’t prove that higher social competence can lead to better outcomes later on. But when combined with other research, it is clear that helping children develop these skills increases their chances of success in school, work, and life.”
3. They set high standards.
Parents of successful kids have high expectations for their children. Because they want to see their children successful, preparations are done early. They make plans for their children’s education at the best school available. As a result, their children graduate from prestigious universities. This is called Pygmalion effect “that what one person expects of another can come to serve as a self-fulfilling prophecy.”
4. They have a healthy familial relationship.
Conflict in the family causes a problem in children’s behavioral development. Children from divorced families find difficulty in relating others. Parents of successful kids maintain a healthy relationship with the family. As a result, their children grow and value the same harmonious relationship.
5. They teach their children scholastic materials.
Parents of successful kids practice their children with academic materials such as mathematics, reading, etc. One study found that teaching kids scholastic activities help them succeed in academic.
“We find the single most important factor in predicting later academic achievement is that children begin school with a mastery of early math and literacy concepts,” said Northwestern University researcher Greg Duncan. Attention-related skills, though more modestly, also consistently predict achievement.”
6. They encourage their kids.
Parents of successful kids understand the value of exploration rather than focusing on perfection. They encourage their children to pursue success regardless of perceived weakness. Because success is just a matter of motivation to succeed rather than by internal attributes such as intelligence. In fact, Carol Dweck suggests that success is a product of a growth mindset. That is training a mind to become open to new information and experiences.
However, if you think you can’t succeed because you’re an average guy, you won’t. This is what Carol Dweck called the fixed mindset.
Children can achieve anything by teaching them to develop a growth mindset.
I’m a licensed psychometrician, author, and blogger. I’m currently working as a University instructor teaching psychology. I love writing and doing psychological research.