There are many reasons why your dreams become a nightmare. And for the most part, your attitude is the number one obstacle.
Yes, that’s right. You might not realize it but the way you deal with things in your life makes you who you are at this moment.
Whenever I speak about the role of thoughts on behavior, I don’t think that people really understand it. I don’t know if they get what I say. If you are looking for a valid answer to the above question, you better read this carefully.
We are what we think. Our present is the byproduct of our previous decision. In terms of achieving a goal, the biggest part of the process is your thinking pattern.
Many people make dreams and goals but never get ahead. Why? Because, primarily, they do not believe in it. They are not willing enough to do what it takes to achieve.
I get it. We all have negativities. We share the same fears, the fear of failure, the fear of success, the fear of not having enough, the fear of people’s judgment, etc.
These fears, if you allow them will hold you back. These fears paralyze many people. The tough ones are the only people who made it. They are the only one who reaches their dreams in life.
Understanding what stops many people from achieving success helps you examine yourself. Are you doing what the majority unsuccessful people are doing or are you following the few successful ones?
If the mind could sabotage your life, you can also make it works to your advantage. The only thing you can do is to control how your mind creates thoughts.
In other words, changing your current life circumstance involves the total restructuring of your thinking pattern.
But how do you know that you are the one who holds you back? In this post, I will share with you some of the things that could lead you to failure. These things should be eliminated or changed to allow you to achieve your goal in life.
Perfectionism is one of the biggest illusions that most people cling to. The truth is that no matter how you strive to be perfect, you’re always prone to mistakes and failures.
Why? The reason is simple. Perfectionism is not true. It is just an illusion. If you want to be perfect all the time, you won’t be able to start something significant or achieve your goals.
We all have weaknesses and mistakes. But our imperfection makes us wonderful beings. Our mistakes make the world more challenging and full of surprises.
You should not worry about mistakes. What you need to do instead is explore every possibility and be willing to fail. Because only in failure you’ll be able to see the path to success.
2. Fear of pain
One of the things that stop many people from achieving success is the fear of pain. Most of us avoid pain because that’s how our brain being trained throughout evolution. And this is the very reason why very few people become successful.
You need to realize that whatever your goal is, there is always work to be done. There is always a hill to climb, a weight to lift, and a wall to go against. It will be painful. If you want to achieve success, you have to embrace the pain.
Impatience is another thing that stops many people from achieving success. We want instant gratification. We are focusing on the end result of our labor. But the problem is, life does not work that way. Bit things take a lot of time.
If you have a big goal in life, it takes a decade of hard work before you can even see it. For most people, waiting for the result is simply intolerable. So they quit. They try to find instant success. And they failed. Why? Because there’s nothing significant that happens overnight.
If you want to be successful, focus on the process of achieving your goal, not on the end result. Enjoy what you do and make progress every day. In that way, you will be able to delay your gratification and be able to get there.
4. Trying to accomplish things all at once
If you have a big goal, chances are there are big steps that you need to take. One of the biggest mistakes of most people is that they tend to do all things once. As a result, they easily get overwhelmed.
The best way to deal with an overwhelming task is to break it into smaller pieces. And work on those pieces one at a time. This is the only way to stay healthy and remain productive.
So many times people failed in their goals because of unreasonable excuses. As things get complicated and difficult, we tend to rationalize and make our excuses more and more reasonable. There’s always one good excuse for not attending a class, for not going to the gym, for not doing your homework, or for not getting up from bed early.
At some point, we are all victims of excuses. But if you really want to succeed, you better learn to say no to that negative mindset. I could have the best excuse not to write this article because I’m too tired today. But my reason for pursuing to publish articles for this blog is stronger than my excuses.
If you really want to succeed, stay focus, and do not allow your negative thinking controls you. Once you know where you are heading, stay on the track no matter what.